Truthbetold,ItookthismovieasapersonalmessagefromGodabove.Problemsintherelationshipbetweenmeandmyfatherhavebeenbotheringmesobadlyforseveralyears,andrecently,IhavebeenthinkingmoreandmorefrequentlythathowshouldIforgivehimandletgoofallthebadmemoriesinthepast?Whatreallyhashappenedbetweenus?DidnotIdoanythingwrongtohimalso?Whoistheonereallyneedstobeforgiven.Inafamily,thingslaythereasfacts,say,nature-bornrelationshipsandunreasonableloveintheblood,willstaystillunconditionally.Aslongastheyexistonemoment,nothingcouldbechangedafterwards.Andtheproblems,whichcanbeconsideredasnature-bornalso,comerightafter.I,whoamaforeignerfromanAsiancountry,havetodealwiththesamekindoftroublesinmyownfamily,justaspeoplefromallotherpartsoftheworld.Thedistinguishiabilitiescomefromthenurtureside.Closerorfurtherconnectionsbetweenfamilymembers,authoritiesinthefamily,andreactionstocertainissuescouldbeheavilyinfluencedbypersonalbelief,culturaltraditionsandreligionenvironment.Sinceinteractionbetweenregionsandgroupsarebecomingwiderandmorefrequent,theconflictcausedbycultureandlifestylecollisionsappearmoreandmoreinfamilies,especiallybetweengenerations.Havingafamilystandingbehindallthetimeisablessing;fightingtheworldandone’sownfamilyatthesametime,isabsolutelypainfulandtragic.VictorandIbothhavesomeverysimilarexperiences,soIcanunderstandhisfeelingsveryeasily.Attheendofthemovie,ThomaswasreadingapoemHowdoweforgiveourfatherS;Iwaslisteningcarefullyandaskingmyselfthesamequestion.Victorregardshisfatherwithbothdeeploveandbitterresentmentanddislike.Hemighthavewishedthingscouldbedonedifferentlyafterall,heorhisfathercouldhavedonethingsinsomeotherways,justbeforeeverythinggetstoolate,whentheystillhavethechancetotalk,playbasketball,hug,andevenfight.Victormustconfronthisconflictedfeelingstowardhisfather,aswellashisownidentity.ThetripgaveVictorsomeanswershehadbeenlookingforandshownhimwhyhisfatherlefthomeandbecameanabusivefatherandalcoholic.IwishedIwouldnotseethesamethinghappenstomeinthefuture,soIhadtodosomething,atleastgiveitanothertry.Itriedbefore,failed;butIprayed,anddecidedtotryagain.Thepointissinceyoucannottellwhattheproblemisandwhosefaultitis,justtrytostaritoverfromthebeginningpoint.Compromiseneedtomake,hardfeelingstobear,butitisworththeeffort,nomatterhowmanytimesyoufail.